I'm not trying to lecture y'all on love buuuuut...LOL! Here goes.
Sifting through the devils lies, and what the good book says, I wonder just how big are angel wings? I ask myself this sometimes, when I look up toward Heaven and see the cerulean and azure hues behind the luminous orb of the sun. I watch and wonder as soft, billowy clouds float softly in the light of day gently taking on the appearance of those celestial wings on occasion. I wonder if I could reach for those wings, even though I'm only five foot four inches?
Taking care of my wonderful mother, who has been sick for some time, and is bound to a wheel chair now has caused me to realize that my being here eases her suffering. And hey, I can handle that! Because Love comes first. It hurts when some people I've met, friends, or even family become so snarky about my mother being in that wheel chair. And that hurts me more then anything. In my opinion, if someone can’t handle another person’s most deepest trials and tribulations, then that is not a friend, and most certainly not a loved one. I know, I know, you are probably wondering what do I mean by love… well… here I will break it down for you. I’m happy to do so! It’s my pleasure!
There's a miracle called friendship that dwells in the heart, you don't know how it happens, or when it gets started, but you know the special lift it always brings when you see those you call friends. And maybe you realize that friendship is one of the most precious gift’s life gives us. As for myself, the only way to be a friend is just to be one. There is no such thing as try, there is only do. You wouldn’t try and pick up a pencil would you? No, you would just do it.
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. My Grandfather, Robert, when he was still alive, taught me that there are only three kinds of people in our lives. 1.) The every day people. You know, like the people you buy your gas for your car from, or your groceries, they are the ones who are randomly in and out of your life. 2.) The Poison People, these are people who are vultures and empty saviors. And whether you see it or not, eventually they wear you down by constant negative actions etc. etc. 3.) These are the most important of all. People who nurture you. Usually you can only count on one hand all the people who truly nurture you. I know I don't have more than a hand full. These are the people that make you smile, and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to you. To me, that is the essence of Love.
There is a book I recommend to everyone I meet. It’s called 'The Path To Love', by Deepak Chopra. This book saved me time after time. Deepak Chopra taught me how to love myself, and love others again. And if I have to preach Love and Peace until I’m blue in the face to help this world and other people like Deepak Chopra, The Dali Lama, and so many others who are preaching love in an attempt bring this world together, or even save one life, I will. Why? Because Love comes first. See it’s all very simple, some people want to make Love out to be something it isn’t. They use the word in a dirty way like it's a common trash bag. lol.
I agree and respect that everyone has different definitions of love, sacrifice, etc. But, I feel like a lot of people spend too much time defining and talking about what these definitions are, instead of just grasping the concept love itself and just showing love and giving it from our hearts. So what if we have expectations and "conditions"? We are all humans, we're not perfect, it's only in an ideal world that we have "unconditional" love. In the strictest sense of the word, even parental love is conditional. But is such love a "lesser" kind of love? Is doing 100 loving and giving acts that are "conditional" less than 1 act of "unconditional" love? Just because someone doesn't love you the way you have defined love, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. Will you reject love (from others or even yourself) if it doesn't match up to your definition? Or will you just accept love for what it is, simple and from the heart. Not something pondered or for what ever your perception of the emotion means. And yes, love is an emotion.
"When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite! When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said to my mom: "Baby, I love burned toast." Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned.
He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Maria, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!"
You know, life is full of imperfect things
and imperfect people. Heh, Lord knows I'm not the best housekeeper, and I've been known to burn toast too! What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults -and choosing to celebrate each others differences are two of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship, with others.
All be it with friendship, family, co workers, neighbors, etcetera,
I've had to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of my life and lay them at the feet of my maker. Because, in my opinion,in the end, the supreme being is the only one who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!
Understanding is the base of any relationship, like I said be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!! I had to go half way around the block and back in life to learn a very important lesson.
"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket, but into your own." My parents taught me about what real love is. They also taught me about Unconditional Love and True Love.
Giving unconditional love requires you to love without any expectations. It seems difficult to only love and not demand anything in return in today’s world where so many are selfish and egotistic. But even in this world we see many examples of unconditional love, for example the love a mother gives to her child, the love between two life partners, and the love bestowed upon siblings. Even love given to the fallen stranger by lending a helping hand. To love unconditionally you will have to learn to sacrifice your self, your desires, and most importantly your ego. Let’s find out how to love unconditionally and give happiness to a person without demanding anything in return.
First of all you have to remember that you are not supposed to expect anything from the person you love. It’s true that love makes its way itself. When you love somebody with so much passion and ardor, it’s sure to come round in one way or another. But if somehow you don’t get as much as you give, don’t complain or argue. Always keep in mind that loving others and giving them everything you have will make you satisfied and happy with yourself.
You need to develop a strong will power to be able to love unconditionally. At some point in our lives we all demand some kind of love and want to express our own love for someone. Believe in the principle of giving more and demanding less. When someone asks you for a favor always be ready to give it. Never complain that you don’t have enough or you have other tasks to do. Set your priorities in such a way that everyone else comes first and your own demands come last.
When you love somebody unconditionally you want the best for that person. Think positively about them even if they make mistakes or do not return your feelings. Give them sincere advice about their future and other decisions. Always look around for the betterment of your loved ones without any envy on your part. If you have to sacrifice something of your own for them, don’t hesitate to do so. Only then you will truly be able to love unconditionally.
Remember that unconditional love is given without any expectations or limitations. You don’t define any scope of your love or that how long will you love a person. This is an eternal feeling which should be kept alive in all circumstances and all situations. Never lose hope and keep on loving people who are dear and close to you, only then you will be able to live a completely satisfied and emotionally balanced life.
Ask and Love Will Be Given To You. So many times in our lives we ask someone for something. Ever since we were small children we had to ask to get want we thought we wanted, and once we received it (sometimes after considerable begging) we found relief for a few short moments, maybe somewhat longer if we were lucky.
Now, as adults we still ask for what we believe we need and sometimes we get it, and sometimes we do not; reacting according to what we believe a good outcome is for us. We have just found more tactful ways of asking and developed more complex coping strategies for handling the tough times when nothing we ask for seems to come to fruition.
A powerful antidote to this wanting, asking and reacting (all acts of the Ego) is to ask only for what we truly need. Well you say, "I already do that"; well you’re partially correct. The trouble is that you don't know what you really "need" if you did you would only ask for love as a result of your asking or actions. Can you really see the big picture? Love is Peace, And Peace is the result of turning the outcome of events over to the Spirits will. This is the only way to truly receive that which is real and is best for you in the short and long term.
Try the next time you let your mind/ego jump the gun to wanting a certain outcome because it is perceived as good, subjugate that belief and as for peace no matter what the outcome, than you ensure success.
True Love is Your Essence~
A common thing that you will hear people say is that they are looking for love. They do not realize it has already found them. In fact they were never without. Love is the manifestation of the eternal and the infinite. It is waiting to be discovered in each of us. We have in fact been building up heavy layers of ego related energy to cover it up from our experiencing it.
Our collective ego (culture) has created time and time has covered up our true nature. When I refer to time, there is practical time and psychological time. Practical time is used for meeting other people, scheduling appointments, attending shows etc.... Psychological time is when we think about past or future events and experience emotions around those events. This is a very common way that we punish ourselves about what could, would, or should have been or when we will find salvation. This salvation always comes in the form of thoughts about the future and how it will be better than what we are experiencing in the present.
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever ever experienced anything outside the Now? Will you in the future? Time is an illusion. The sooner you are able to free yourself from psychological time, the sooner you will be able to experience your true essence, love. At your core, you are true love. You were born into this world out of "no thing" and you will leave this world back to the same "no thing".
This is the truth, the way.
Watch your mind, stay attentive to your thoughts. See what they are saying but do judge or believe what they are saying. This is your ego, and it will rob you of the only moment you have had or will ever have. This Now moment is the eternal consciousness. It is who you truly are.
Experience True Love By Accessing the Now~
I have recently become quite inspired by the teachings of Deepak Chopra. As he would however quickly point out that the teaching and the taught are actually one, together becoming the teaching.
All you ever have is the now, there has never been nor will ever be an experience of life outside the eternal now. This is where you find Love. In present day society we are consumed by time, rarely if ever experience the present moment free from thinking. The irony is that time is an illusion (the past nor the future only exist in memory traces pointing to a past event or anticipating a future that will only be experienced in the now). Your egotistic mind creates your present "now" by either "comparing" it to the past or anticipating the future. Your present emotions are dictated by the interpretation of those either being "bad or good". This is madness, even though everyone accepts this way of being as "normal".
To experience true love, the key is to drop out of time and focus on the only true point the ever present "now". Your ego/thinking mind will fight you on this, it's survival is dependent on keeping you out of the "now".
There are many techniques such as meditation, yoga, sports, chanting etc.. Mine is prayer) that people utilize to become present but often once they move away from these activities the mind takes over again.
Love is inside you, it is limitless and eternal, it is God. Love and God are synonymous and can only be experienced in the now. The ego and love are opposed to one another, you are either serving love or ego, never both at the same time.
This is a radical shift, especially in western culture. It sounds simple but the actual practice is quite hard but the rewards of eternity and infinity (i.e. a return to God) make the practice worthwhile. God is here, NOW, our ego blinds us to his/here presence inside each of us.
If you are interested in exploring this philosophy further, once again I recommend you read 'The Path To Love' by Deepak Chopra as an introduction. 7 Karmic Laws is also a very inspiring book!
Hahaha Ok I think I’ve said enough for one night, just had to get this off my heart. If you are wondering where this is coming from, let’s just say a very special angel, she told me to write this. Thank you for taking the time to read this, it means so much. By the way, I hope I earn those wings someday!
Please feel free to comment, I will comment back! And remember
LOVE COMES FIRST!
With all my Love and Supernatural. (Yes I believe in the supernatural, but that's another story for another time.)